Raleigh Family Lawyer: The Questions You Should Ask Before Filing for Divorce
Are disagreements and
differences weighing down your marriage? Whatever you may be going through, you
should understand that divorce is a life-changing step, and, like marriage,
should not be taken without preparation. Oftentimes marital disputes can be
addressed through counseling or a brief separation period to give yourself time
to heal or to reflect on your life.
The Daily Times
and The New York Times
have recently posted articles that ask the questions you should consider before
calling a Raleigh family
lawyer and pursuing a divorce. Here are several of the questions that
can assist you in deciding if a divorce or a separation is the right step for
you at this time.
communication and roles
Most relationships boil
down to how well partners communicate, understand, and compromise with one another.
If you have been having problems, ask yourself the following questions:
you made clear your concerns about the relationship?
you and your spouse have shared expectations about the roles you play in the
No matter how rationally
you approach relationship issues, it’s undeniable that emotions will always play
a primary role in your actions – that is, if they have not already compounded
your problems. Consider if things said or done in anger made things worse, and
if calming emotions will improve them. Since the level of emotional maturity is
the foundation that builds healthy, long-term relationships ask yourself:
you really be happier without your partner?
you still love him or her?
Don’t forget that there
are many practicalities to be considered before starting or ending a marriage.
I prepared for the financial stress divorce may bring?
I ready to take care of the day-to-day details of living that my spouse took
Living independently once
again – in all senses of the word – is not something to be taken lightly.
Ultimately, a marriage’s
dissolution will not only impact the two partners, but the rest of their family
as well. Noting that children can have different reactions to their parents’
troubles, depending on their ages and relationships with each parent, ask yourself:
can a divorce be handled to minimize the harm on the children?
you willing to create a new relationship with your partner as a co-parent?
type of custody arrangement are you willing to have?
will pay for the children’s needs/support?
& Blum will be
happy to assist you, whatever your final decision is. An experienced family
lawyer from our team will help you in a variety of ways: handling divorce
papers, drafting post nuptial agreements – or going through the questions above
The important thing is
that you can make one of the most important decisions of your life and follow
it through with the best support possible.
Give us a call today at
919-832-7700 to schedule a low cost initial consultation.
11 Questions to Ask Before
Getting a Divorce, NYTimes.com
Questions to ask before getting a divorce,