Raleigh Family Lawyer Shares 7 Things You Should Never Do If You're Getting Divorced

Let’s get real for a minute.

It’s simple, divorce usually results in all sorts of complications – whether its emotions, legalities, finances, and/or relations within a separating couple’s circle. Understandably, these complexities can affect any person’s decision-making, leading to unfavorable actions during divorce proceedings.

Business Insider recently published seven things you should take care not to do if you are getting a divorce. Four of the points they stress are meant to protect your personal finances:

  1. Don’t talk to a financial adviser you don’t understand.
  2. Don’t rely on electronic copies of your assets.
  3. Don’t try to be clever with money.
  4. Don’t attempt to live the same lifestyle as before your divorce.

These guidelines speak to how financial savviness is essential as you and your spouse divide your assets and try to stake claims on what each of you legitimately, independently own and should be allowed to maintain.

Good planning will also help you remain financially comfortable even as you pay for all the costs associated with the divorce which could cost in the tens of thousands. More importantly, a solid and honest documentation of your assets can make your case come across better, in case you find yourself in court.

In addition to this, Business Insider notes two other points:

  1. Don’t let your emotions dictate your actions.
  2. Don’t focus on your own personal drama.

For the couple involved, divorce proceedings might hinge on feelings and events that led to their falling out. However, courts generally do not focus on the sordid details, with the exception of marital misconduct, but on financial statements, assets and paperwork.

The bottom line

Ultimately, Business Insider emphasizes you should not overlook hiring a divorce and family lawyer.

An experienced attorney from a reputable Raleigh law firm knows how to anticipate, navigate, and negotiate the loopholes and legalities that emerge over the course of proceedings. He or she can help you focus on the practicalities and decisions at hand, steer you toward achieving what you want from a divorce, and keep you from making mistakes that could harm not only the proceedings but your life.

Debra Wasser, author of the book It Doesn’t Have To Be That Way: How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family or Bankrupting Yourself, describes what your attorney should be like:

“A problem-solver, an advocate, an… advisor on the law and on your rights and responsibilities, a strategist, a negotiator, and a litigator.”

A divorce lawyer could also be a great stress reducer – helping ease the burden of divorce by handling the details of legal work so you could reserve some time for yourself and your family.

Each of the family attorneys with Kurtz & Blum, PLLC agree with the above mentioned precautions. An attorney at your side is paramount, whether you simply need a first consultation about how divorce could go, or if you have already decided to go to court and fight it out.


  • 7 Things you should never do if you’re about to get divorced. Business Insider. February 8, 2017.
  • 5 Reasons That You Need a Divorce Attorney. Huffington Post. September 17, 2013.